Freeing your mind from suffering

by Jason Foster
(NJ)

If you have fear of some pain or suffering, you should examine whether there is anything you can do about it. If you can, there is no need to worry about it; if you cannot do anything, then also there is no need to worry.
~Dalai Lama

The subconscious mind will be free of the event when you fully let it go on all levels. Some don’t fully let go, and it is still there waiting until it eventually creeps back in.

What does it mean to let go?

To release the past, and the thoughts of the future, returning your thoughts to the present moment. How does one let go? Forgiveness plays a part in it. Not just in forgiving others, but forgiving themselves. Forgiving does not mean that you condone the action, or what happened. Forgiving brings you to peace within your mind about the event, and those that were involved.

When a traumatic event occurs within our lives, sometimes that event stays with us. If we are not careful that event can stay with us the duration of our lives. This is where we must learn to let go of the event. The event has happened. There are times when it wasn’t our choice. It is our choice to hold onto the event, or we can let go. When we hold on to the event, our minds start to replay the event over, and over again until we let go of it, or we bury it. Many take the road of burying it, and forgetting it. For some that is less painful if they don’t remember the event. However there is a strong drawback to forgetting an event. Burying an event leaves the event unresolved as far as our minds are concerned. When this happen there can be a strong chance that the event will raise back into our conscious. Usually this occurs when something similar to the past event happens again, or names of individuals that were involved are mentioned. This is what is more commonly referred to as trigger events when the mind starts to remember the event, and all associated sensations with it. For many they are stuck in this loop or experience. They can either live out their lives in denial, or they can let go of it, and move to a healthy now.

How do emotions play into suffering?

Experiencing your emotions doesn’t create suffering, and is very healthy. It’s ok to have emotions; it’s ok to do this. There is no reason to not have an emotion. That is not the suffering. Suffering happens when you hold onto the emotion, and do not let go of it. You dwell on it, and eventually it gets turned inside.

Being sad and angry that you got your pink slip is a natural reaction. It can be healthy to feel both those emotions. Dwelling on those feelings, or on the situation will create undue suffering. Thinking you will never find another job, you are not good enough to do anything else. Your family will never get food again. You will lose your house. You will have no where to go, etc… Those are thoughts that as long as you house them in your mind will you create suffering within yourself. Allowing yourself to be free from them will allow you to have peace of mind.

Finding a new job will not happen any faster if you hold onto those thoughts. In fact housing those negative thoughts could impact your job hunting skills, and keep you out of a job longer. With those thought you will more than likely make yourself more nervous when you are job hunting, and then have a higher chance of not doing well on the interview.


The dangers of “what if” thinking

One of the most dangerous thoughts an individual can think is the “what if” statement. What if I did this, what if I did that? What if I was more attentive? What if? What if? These thoughts help to solidify ourselves in the past. Being in the past takes us out of the now, and keeps us in suffering. Truth of the matter is. There is no guarantee that things could have been any different than how they happened. No one can tell you if things would have been different between you and your ex partner. Constantly thinking of what you could have done better does you no good. It keeps you living in the past, and causes you to relive that moment over, and over again. No matter how hard one can try they are not able to change the past. We made the best decision we could of with the knowledge we had at that time. There is no way to know how things could of or would have played out.

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