he writes in your childs medical file "mother is very aggressive" because you asked him a question contradicting his assumptions

My child is sick, she suffers chronic pain and headaches as well as fatigue and lack of balance/muscle coordination and control. Although I work full time, I have state insurance because I am a single mom and make too little to afford the private insurance my small company offers. Because of this, doctors treat me and my child like we are ignorant moochers who don't really have problems or deserve their attention.

We have seen doctor after doctor because her pediatrician keeps telling us she can't help us and refers my child to other doctors/specialists. We were told to see a neurologist. We then were told we could see one, in 11 months! What the heck! My child could either be cured on her own or dead by this point! Eleven months?! This is a sick child for gods sake! So, after waiting for 8 of those months, we then get a call telling us our appointment will have to BE RESCHEDULED DUE TO THE DOCTOR BEING ON VACATION! SO we had to wait another extra 3 months after the 11 months.

Finally, after over a year the day comes to see the doctor. We get up early to drive all the way to New Haven Children's Hospital (a 2 1/2 hour drive from us). We go through hoop after hoop to get to the actual office. We wait over half an hour to be seen. We get in, the doctor rushes in and begins to mumble to my child and I. We can barely understand him. He sits down and begins to grill my child like she is on trial. She tries to answer his questions but he is making her scared and she doesn't quite know what he wants her to say to some of the questions. Every time she tries to answer he interrupts her to say "lets just concentrate on your pain, don't keep telling me these other things!" I finally interject and tell him we believe that all her symptoms are from the same issue and perhaps it would help him to understand what is going on better with her if he listened to her about all that is going on with her. He begins to make weird noises, jots something down angrily on HER medical file, and then rushes out of the room.

We wait 10 minutes, nothing, no one comes back. He has left the paper right in front of me on the desk. I look down and read what he has written. I see in big black letters underlined "VERY AGGRESSIVE MOTHER". I wonder first of all how he could possibly make that judgment on me from a 5 minute meeting, perhaps it's because I dared to contradict him and ask him a pointed question? Maybe he expected a silent, ignorant, unintelligent woman who thinks he is God because he is a doctor. Then I wonder, what does this have to do with my daughters illness or medical history and why is he writing personal judgments about me in my CHILD'S medical history?

Needless to say I am very confused and offended at this point. Where is he? Why are we sitting in an empty room? We hear quiet knocking once, twice. I am not sure if it comes from another room or what. I open the door and no one is out there. I am about to shut it again and he burst around the corner mumbling about how the door locked him out... Yeah the door did it, NOT you... He then comes in and sits and stares at us. I ask him point blank why he would write something like that about me in my child's file and how he could even dare to assume that about me because I asked him a question. He beings to yell at me about "Do I want him to treat my daughter or do I want him to just pass me off to another doctor?" He asks me this over and over in a threatening manor. He says repeatedly "I don't think I want to treat your child, I am going to give you the name of another doctor who can "handle you" and you will have to reschedule with them. Treat my child? He hasn't even attempted to do this! Plus how dare he use our need to see a doctor as a threat against me I.E. "if you don't behave I will refuse your child medical attention lady"! Yet he still won't answer my question about why he would write that and what it has to do with treating my daughter? Then he asks me to leave the room! How dare he, like I would ever leave him alone with my minor child! Then he jumps up and says "I think I should have a witness I'm going to get a witness" I am at this point like "yeah I want one too, so go get one" So a nice nurse comes in and sits while he then asks me in front of her, "now, can I continue?" I'm like "sure, I never told you not to I am not sure what you are doing here (other than being scary and rude and treating us like crap)" So he then proceeds to rush through an exam at light speed. Totally ignoring my child's answers and the fact that she is tipping over and falling every other part of the exam. After barely looking at her (although from the second he brought the nurse in the room he wouldn't even look at me and he began calling my daughter "Sweetheart" UGH) for 5 minutes he declares "I don't see any significant neurological symptoms so I am going to recommend she begin to take antidepressants" AT BARELY 13 YEARS OLD"!? I just took the paper and silently walked out of the room like shove it up your... I was mortified and so disgusted! My poor daughter was in tears, asking why he acted like that and saying "why wont anyone help me I feel so sick all the time"?! So after a day wasted from missing school we feel worse than before. Bottom line I would not recommend going to YALE NEW HAVEN CHILDREN'S HOSPITAL!