“You need to get out more.”
“Why are you so quiet?”
“You’re so anti-social.”
“How do you make friends?”
“Don’t you get lonely?”
If you have heard one or more of these questions/statements or others along the same lines multiple times throughout your life, you might be an introvert.
The terms “introvert” and “extrovert” have become increasingly popular terms over the past several years that help people define or describe the sort of personalities they have. Knowing which one describes you best ultimately depends on what you need to do in order to “re-charge” or get your mental/emotional energy back. Do you need people to help you feel energized and vibrant? Or do you need to get away to spend time on your own in order to feel better and ready to take on whatever’s next?
Introverts vs Extroverts
Extroverted people tend to be the outgoing, highly social people. These people need social settings in order to feel good and get energized. They love to live out loud and are likely the people who do better vocalizing their thoughts and ideas to others and often need people to help them process their emotions.
Introverted people, on the other hand, are the quieter, more reserved people. These people need alone time in order to feel better and get their energy back up. They do much better having time and space to figure things out and process their emotions and can even enjoy their alone time more than they do most social settings.
Introverts aren’t always shy; even extroverts can be shy. This is a common misconception. Introverted people keep to themselves and seek out alone time because that is simply what they need to do in order to function. Being around people actually drains their energy stores and they desperately need that alone time to recharge, otherwise they can become exhausted.
In modern society, it is the common belief that people need to be more social, get out more, have as many friends as possible, broadcast their lives on social media, live loudly, etc. For this reason, introverts can get a bad rap and deal with the questions and statements listed above. But the truth is, spending time alone isn’t a bad thing. In fact, it can be incredibly beneficial for you.
And it’s not just introverts that can experience these benefits; everyone could use a little time to really get to know themselves without the influence of other people. Spending time alone gives you the chance to really dig deep and get to know what makes you tick, and also helps you cultivate certain traits and aspects that being constantly surrounded by people doesn’t do.
Here are 15 reasons why wanting to spend time alone can actually enhance your life:
- Increased Emotional Strength – When you spend time on your own, you’re able to really tune into your emotions and identify and understand not only the emotions themselves, but the root of why you feel the way you do. Being able to do this helps you to better process your emotions and have more control over them.
- Naturally Empathetic – People who spend time alone likely have natural empathetic tendencies that grow stronger the more they grow to understand emotions and how they work. They are able to really understand how others feel and even experience to a degree what others are experiencing with their own emotions. This can be really draining for people at times, thus why they need time to recharge, but this natural tendency can also cultivate a powerful sense of kindness, understanding, and compassion towards others.
- A Strong Moral Compass – People who spend time alone often have a better sense of what they consider right and wrong. Spending time on you own really gives you the opportunity to figure out how you truly feel about things and what you think and doesn’t bear the risk of you subconsciously conforming to the opinions of those around you.
- They Are Open Minded – A common misconception about people who spend time alone is that they’re naive or closed off to the world. Quite the opposite tends to happen. People who take time for themselves actually tend to be much more open to what experiences and opportunities the world has to offer and also the people they come in contact with. They also have very well thought-out opinions of the world and are able to think strongly for themselves and not simply fall into the flow of the common opinions.
- They Don’t Need Peer Acceptance – Peer pressure and acceptance is a very strong aspect of modern society, but people who spend time on their own tend to gain a much stronger sense of who they really are and find that they don’t need the acceptance of their peers. They enjoy their own company, know how they feel and what they believe, and they find no reason to let others dictate how they should be.
- They Can Admit Their Flaws – People who spend time alone are more likely to be able to own up to their flaws, and this tends to be because of the stronger sense of self they develop while spending time in their own company. They know who they are and they know they’re imperfect, and they also know there is nothing wrong with that.
- They Prefer The Company Of Other Intellectual People – Especially for introverts, because they spend so much time alone in their own company, they can be more selective about who they want to spend their time with and know what sort of people they get along with best. Because they don’t need to be constantly surrounded by people, they place a certain value on their social time and don’t typically want to spend it participating in small talk or meaningless conversation.
- Strong Sense Of Intuition – People who take the time to get to know themselves also develop a stronger trust for themselves and their gut feelings. They are able to understand how they feel towards everything they face and choose how they want to respond and make intuitive decisions.
- They Are Highly Loyal And Reliable – Because people who spend time alone are more selective about who they spend their time with and who or what they spend their energy on, they also have a higher tendency to develop deeper relationships and are very loyal to the people they hold closest. They can also be relied on to follow through with their commitments.
- They Are Independent – This goes without saying, but people who learn how to be with themselves grow to be very independent and and don’t need to depend on others to figure out where they’re going in life. They’ve taken the time to figure out what they want and what sort of lines they’ve laid down.
- They Respect Healthy Boundaries – People who spend time with themselves know the importance of boundaries and tend to have a high respect for the boundaries and time of others. They know where their own lines are and what they’re comfortable with. They don’t like pushing other people, especially since they know they don’t like getting pushed in return.
- They’re Courageous – Because introverted people are so comfortable being alone, they’re not afraid to stand on their own in the world and experience things for themselves. They are highly aware of what they’re capable of and don’t often depend on others to hold them up.
- They’re Level-Headed – People who spend time alone can prove to have a very level head in situations and circumstances that require them to think quickly and come up with a solution. They’re not afraid to step back and stay calm while thinking things through.
- They Place Importance On Self Love – Oftentimes when people are constantly surrounded by other people, they can forget to take time for themselves and really focus on self love. Spending time alone allows you the opportunity to really breathe and take care of yourself and to also learn how to experience gratitude and appreciation for yourself and the individual you are.
- They Seek Meaningful Romantic Relationships – When you spend a lot of time on your own and have a strong sense of independence, you know what you want and you’re also not afraid to be single. People who prefer time on their own tend to be very careful about who they choose to date and won’t dive into anything they don’t feel will work out in the long run.
For these reasons and many others, learning how to spend time in your own company can really help enhance and even heal you on emotional, mental, and spiritual levels. The person you spend the most time with in your life is you, and you are truly a very fascinating, intricate, powerful human being that deserves to be heard, seen and understood by you.
If spending time on your own isn’t what you’re used to, it can be hard and even scary at times, but in the long-run, it really can do wonders for you and how you show up in the world.
Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert? Are you comfortable spending time with yourself? What are your thoughts on the benefits of spending time alone? Share your thoughts and experiences with us, we would love to hear from you.